A very good way of going about explaining this issue. It’s good to see something positive come from Tumblr.
HOLY SHIT. THIS. THIS IS WHAT I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO TELL PEOPLE. SHUT YOUR MOUTH ABOUT MEN VS WOMEN. @_@
this is literally so important
This is the best example and illustration I have yet to find. If more people realized that this is what equality is pushing for then we would be better off.
some unimaginably rapey, entitled, horrible, abusive dude created a spreadsheet documenting his wife rejecting his sexual advances, and then he sent it to her in an email before she went on a trip (check out the wife’s original post on Reddit but fair warning: the comments are about as disgusting as you’d expect from that trash heap of a website)I SAW THIS ON A DIFFERENT WEBSITE
THE COMMENTS SAID THINGS LIKE “THE WOMAN SHOULD KNOW MEN NEED SEX” “HER EXCUSES ARE BULLSHIT, WHEN DOES WATCHING A MOVIE EXCUSE NOT GIVING YOUR MAN SOME LOVING.” “HE DESERVES SOME SEX, SHE CANT EXPECT HIM TO JUST GO WITHOUT IT BC SHE DOESNT WANT TO GIVE HIM IT.” “IT DOESNT MATTER WHETHER SHE WANTED IT OR NOT, RELATIONSHIPS ARE ABOUT GIVE AND TAKE AND SHE NEEDS TO LEARN TO GIVE HIM WHAT HE WANTS” I ACTUALLY NEARLY VOMITTED BC PEOPLE LIKE THAT ARE SO GROSS YOU ARE NOT ENTITLED TO SEX AND TBH I WOULDNT WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH A GUY SO CHILDISH AND DEMANDING. ALSO CAN THE WHOLE “MEN NEED SEX, MEN CANT CONTROL THEIR URGES” FUCKING STOP
When people say “it’s about give and take, she needs to give him what he wants even if she doesn’t, ” they’re literally saying “let him rape her.” Rape is the absence of consent. All it takes is ignoring her no. People disgust me sometimes.
And her “excuses” (reasons) are solid. Any reason to say no is solid. And this guy is so entitled and creepy. She’s busy watching her show or just got back from the gym and you feel like you’re owed her body? Right then? Fuck you, dude. She has her own life.
OMG I started reading the notes on this and I just can’t.
To hell with anybody who thinks this kind of thing is ok.
Sex is not guaranteed because you are married or in a relationship. There are MULTITUDES of reasons she may have said no, INCLUDING the fact that she was FED UP with feeling like he expected sex pretty much every day.
Repeat after me:
THE ONLY PERSON YOU ARE ENTITLED TO SEXUAL CONTACT WITH IS YOURSELF.
Get it through your ducking skull, you’ll be much happier and so will everybody you interact with
This guy is a fucking shitstain. Between his whiny entitlement and the “I’m still tender from last night” that tells me sex to him means two minutes of jackhammering and nothing else, no wonder she never wanted to sleep with him. I hope she came home with a fistful of divorce papers.
This is repulsive. I don’t even know what else to say about it. That poor woman.
saying feminism is unnecessary because you don’t feel oppressed is like saying fire extinguishers are unnecessary because your house isn’t on fire
how do you react when you say something about feminism and someone responds with "I'd rather care about something more important like child exploitation"?
Uh…well, I’d probably say something about how we shouldn’t just ignore the problems women face. Certain topics are more important to people than others, but that doesn’t mean we should flat out ignore the other problems. If someone believes child exploitation is more important, that’s them, but that doesn’t mean the cause of feminism isn’t important at all. So they can obviously believe whatever is more important, but they shouldn’t just minimize the something you believe is more important, because that’s just rude.
Powerpuff Girls was actually a show about a group of small children crushing the patriarchy and no one will convince me otherwise
Anyone who tries to convince you otherwise obviously wasn’t watching the same show.
LOOK AT THIS. LOOK AT THIS, MEN WHO DO THIS, AND FEEL FOOLISH
Do you see how ridiculous this looks? How obscene?
you're 1 of my fave feminist blogs but reblogging that "white cis girls who don't shave their armpits" post was out of line. as a woman of colour, I am sick n tired of feminists shitting on white women/cis women, OPPRESSION ISN'T A COMPETITION. I am a jewish woman & face racism intersected with sexism. By sayin that white cis girls don't deserve pity is stating that sexism is only valid when it intersects w/ something else, thus stating that misogyny itself isn't valid. please think about this.
Totally gotcha. After reading it again, I think you’re right and I deleted the post. Thanks for pointing that out.
Remember several weeks ago when blogger and writer Jincey Lumpkin called Miley Cyrus a feminist icon? Outspoken Black feminists took her to task for ignoring Miley’s exploitation of Black women. The backlash was so fierce that Jincey apologized.
Fast forward to November 13th, an ordinary day made extraordinary by the declaration of Lily Allen’s “Hard Out Here” as a feminist anthem and her video as a “genius” satire of pop videos. The video swerves into Miley’s lane featuring a relatively covered pop singer surrounded by scantily clad Black women. It features close-ups of Black women twerking, a long-standing hip hop dance for which has bizarrely been given credit Miley Cyrus. Lily Allen herself claims it’s satire but, given her iffy take on the black female body during a spat with Azlia Banks and the lyric “I don’t need to shake my ass for you because I have a brain,” timed right as one of her Black dancers bends over, it’s unclear what she’s satirizing, exactly. What is clear is that Jincey should have never apologized. Miley Cyrus IS a feminist icon and now, so is Lily Allen. They are feminist icons, and that feminism is White, cis, well-to-do and disingenuous.
Black women have been fighting for space in feminism since Sojourner asked anti-abolitionist suffragists “Ain’t I a woman?” There is a long, sad, and complicated history of white women being active participants in the (ongoing) colonization and exploitation of Black and brown women the world over. Funnily enough, Lily Allen sings in her slut-shaming “feminist” anthem “We’ve come a long way, and if you don’t see the sarcasm in that, you’re missing the point.”
We see this history come out to play when mainstream feminism shuns Black celebrities for the very things they laud their White peers for. So far, the list who gets the feminist badge looks very Caucasian and contradictory. Miley Cyrus is a feminist icon for getting naked. Lily Allen is a feminist for slut-shaming Miley Cyrus.
With this happening so frequently, it begs the question: what is the standard for mainstream feminism when it comes to claiming pop singers and celebrities?
It seems that any white celebrity who is both successful and female gets branded as some sort of feminist whether or not she has even called herself one. Looking at the low standard for who gets to be a feminist pop icon, I’m left wondering why Rihanna hasn’t gotten her badge yet. Rihanna has done more work in the field of feminism than any of the pop stars in her age group. She quite eloquently discussed rape and rape culture in her Man Down video. She chose to address domestic violence in her “We Found Love Video.” Most recently she centered the female gaze AND celebrated the athleticism of strippers in her Pour It Up video. Since the infamous domestic violence incident, Rihanna has made a commitment to live her life on her terms. It permeates her every choice, especially the ones we, the public, do not like. That alone is a powerful statement to other survivors of domestic violence, like myself.
All Miley had to do was sit on a wrecking ball, naked.
While almost every White pop star gets rewarded a feminist badge, the list of who mainstream feminism has declared “bad for the movement” looks quite uniform and Black. Beyonce suffers from internalized misogyny. Nicki Minaj is oversexed and suffers from internalized misogyny. Rihanna is a confused, oversexed victim…who suffers from internalized misogyny.
The fact is, Rihanna doesn’t get dubbed as a feminist icon for the very same reasons her white peers do: the black female body is deemed as overtly sexual. So much so Miley Cyrus can derive a sexual identity just by associating with Blackness and Lily Allen can make a critique of hyper sexuality on our backs. Rihanna being Black and female must work from proving she isn’t just a sex object. Miley gets to be naked and feminist because it is presumed that she is “innocent” and that enjoying sex—for White women like her—isn’t the norm, but a revolutionary act. This was the justification for the rape of Black women, the very reason Saartjie’s genitals were carved from her body, to prove our inherently sexual nature and to prove the White woman’s asexual (and therefore, pure) one.
When pop stars are declared to be shining examples of feminism while continuing a legacy of shaming and sexualizing black bodies, mainstream feminism is sending a clear message: we still ain’t women.
If you kill a person, you’re a murderer. If you steal, no one would hesitate to call you a thief. But in America, when you force yourself on someone sexually, some people will jump through flaming hoops not to call you a rapist.
As reported by Al Jazeera America, colleges across the country are replacing the word “rape” in their sexual assault policies with “non-consensual sex” because schools don’t want label students “rapists”.
This whole article is worth reading.
Women Artists Visibility Event: The Museum of Modern Art opens but not to women artists, NYC on June 14, 1984
Shot by Clarissa Sligh
Despite the increased visibility of women artists by 1984, most were not included in mainstream gallery or museum exhibitions. When the Museum Of Modern Art opened the exhibition the “International Survey of Painting and Sculpture,” with great fan fare, of the 169 artists chosen, all were white and less than 10 percent were women.
Women artists were incensed. The Women’s Caucus for Art and other women’s groups in the area organized to protest the underrepresentation of women artists.
Included in the photographs are Lucy Lippard, May Stevens, Linda Cunningham, Emma Amos, Sabra Moore, Sharon Jaddis, and Alida Walsh. The posters were pasted all over Soho, a vastly different place from the Soho of today.
Parent of a female teen whose school banned leggings
#yesallwomen have a right to an education without fashion policing by sexist administrators
^ this, tho… the message in these ridiculous dress codes remains “boys deserve an undistracted education, and you-GIRL-are a distraction… and your education comes second. You should be grateful, anyway… it’s really more than you deserve.” and i actually am not going to repeat how it reinforces rape culture because really, i’m just so damn tired of the messages we send young women about being nothing more than an accesory in a man’s life… fuck that. and fuck awful myopic dress codes… (via ginandbird)
This parent is right. The school is sending a message that girls’ clothes are supposed to distract boys; that boys can use them as an excuse, that girls when assaulted should blame themselves because they must have worn the wrong thing, because their clothes made them unfit to mingle with their peers. Have I got that right? (rhetorical)